I like music. Or rather I should say love. Listening to an uplifting song right now. It is a healing process 🙂

Do I like to sing?  Yes

Do I want to do it as a profession? Not necessarily

Do I want to be a popular singer? Not at all

Once there is an expectation – it might kill all the fun. Thinking of goals and to do lists is stressful. But doing is fun.

Doing what we like is fun. Be lead by what you like!  But do not be desperate to get somewhere!


“If you want to get over your weaknesses then focus on your strengths” – A great Indian monk

Getting over a weakness is a great feeling. But it takes time. And we need a lot of strength during that time. Let’s say you want to beat alcohol addition. How would you get through the withdrawal phase? How would you bring yourself to say no when a friend offers you that brand of scotch you like? How to cope with not being invited to parties because you don’t drink anymore?

May be you love Tennis. You revived that old passion and it helped you take your mind off alcohol. You started hanging out with your old Tennis buddies again. And as a side effect it helped you loose that belly fat!

May be you are a smooth talker. You used that skill it to politely say no to your friend who offered the scotch. And you made him understand that you are trying to kick an addiction. As a side effect it may encourage that friend to kick his addiction as well.

Focus on your strengths. It gives you the energy to move forward. Strength is life 🙂

Lets say you want to become an expert in a programming language but starting from the scratch. Ask yourself what are my strengths? List them down and remind yourself everyday.

  1. I am good at solving problems in general. It makes me happy
  2. I can think out of the box for solutions
  3. I like learn just for the sake of learning. My curiosity often helps me be a good learner
  4. I am very good at math. It can help with certain aspects of being a programmer
  5. I have my own ways for effective learning
  6. I am full of ideas and creativity
  7. I can make any activity fun 🙂
  8. I get better everyday
  9. I can look at the big picture as well as the details
  10. I am full of insights

We can go on. You get the idea….





Self help gurus do not solve your problems. Philosophers do not solve your problems. They only give you tools that solve problems. You need to understand them and find the right tool for your situation. And then the real hard thing is to actually use those tools to solve your problems.

Your relatives and friends wish the best for you(in general). But they also do not solve your problems. Because they cannot. They are not in your shoes.

The problems can be about career, health, finances or any other problem you face.

There is only one person who can solve your problems. Only one person who is uniquely positioned to solve your problems. If he/she does not pay attention to your problems, then there are no solutions to be found. No respite from the pain points will ever be found if that person does not act. That one and only person is you!

Self-help solves problems. Self help books do not!


I took a new role which is out of my comfort zone. And I have also read 5 really good books in the past 5 months that helped me get a very good perspective on life in general. I also gained insights into my personality, individuality and work styles. Here are some of the things I realized about myself in the past 2 months.

  1. I don’t work! I solve problems, come up with brilliant ideas and ask the right questions. I dealt with myself wrong all these years. When ever I pushed myself to ‘work’, it doesn’t work! I cannot just force myself to work. If I spend time defining a problem in my mind, I automatically spend enough time in solving it.
  2. Thinking drives my action. I need to first think clearly about something. Only after I have given something enough thought can I act on it. My best does not come when I have not spent enough time thinking.
  3. Patience is my strength and I can beat most people in it.
  4. I am more creative when I work by myself. I suck at collaboration. When collaborating, I just let other people do the talking.
  5. Meetings suck the life out of me(and most other people). Preparation is the key to having productive meetings at work. I suck at meetings if I am unprepared.
  6. I don’t enjoy big groups (unless there is good humor flowing around). I am more comfortable in small groups. I like to connect with people one-on-one and have meaningful conversations
  7. I can concentrate really well when the problem or task is clearly defined. Ill-defined phrases like ‘hard work’ do not make sense to me.
  8. I am not a detail oriented person. But can spend hours discussing ideas.
  9. Humor is one of the things that keeps me going. It is indispensable for living a sane life!
  10. I don’t like to control people. And I don’t like it when people try to control me. This is not a new realization. But I understood it more clearly.
  11. I am an introvert. I realized it a few years ago, but over the past few weeks realized the significance and the impact on my work style more and more.
  1. Your strength lies in your preparation. Be prepared with your data if you expect challenging encounters!
  2. You may have your comfort zones but does not mean leadership roles are not for you. Introverts are suited to certain challenges more than the others.
  3. Sometimes the best reaction to bullies is no reaction at all. And you are good at it already. Just focus on the goal of the interaction.
  4. It is not wrong to choose a profession that suits your taste and involves working on your own. That is where your powers are put to best use.
  5. Connect with people one on one. It gives us a chance to know them and they get to know you are a genuinely good person.


  1. Solve problems
  2. Do one thing at a time. Do not multi-task
  3. Simplify. Ask – is this really necessary?
  4. Practice and get more skillful (at tasks, presentations, infographics etc)
  5. Work deliberately and not desperately. Do the work that you want to do and have pleasure doing. Or, make continuous progress towards the work you want to do, starting from the work you have to do.
  6. Sometimes you choose work and sometimes the work chooses you. Be grateful in both those situations
  7. Act on today’s emails today (within 24 hours). But not immediately!
  8. Try to create flow through work (Balance skill and challenge. And keep raising both of them)
  9. Get more effective (in getting things done) with each week of work
  10. Be more organized today compared to yesterday
  11. Do things your own way. That automatically puts your signature on everything you do.
  12. Let it flow, do not force yourself!