I like music. Or rather I should say love. Listening to an uplifting song right now. It is a healing process 🙂
Do I like to sing? Yes
Do I want to do it as a profession? Not necessarily
Do I want to be a popular singer? Not at all
Once there is an expectation – it might kill all the fun. Thinking of goals and to do lists is stressful. But doing is fun.
Doing what we like is fun. Be lead by what you like! But do not be desperate to get somewhere!
In the spirit of staying positive and recognizing our strengths and accomplishments -my achievements in the past 1 year (Jan 2016 to Jan 2017):
- I survived 1 year in an entirely new domain of work – PM in a new field
- Completed a machine learning online course
- Read one book on statistical learning that I really wanted to read
- Got comfortable with a new programming language – R
- Got started on another programming language – Python
- Completed another online course ‘Metrics for data driven companies’
- Did this while travelling every other week
- Slowly learning to assert myself where necessary at work
- Completed a basic course in Yoga!
- Placed myself in a position where I know what I want to do next and how I will get there
- Optimized my online flight booking process to save money and get the most convenient flight (got a bit lucky as well)
- Completed reading ‘Quiet – the power of introverts in a world that cannot stop talking’
- Learnt how to do project finances
- Got started on Kaggle
- Understood the power of being positive and doing breathing exercises
- Learnt Agile methodology. Became a scrum master
- Moved 2 apartments (not an achievement but a record of the effort put in…huff!)
- Travelled in mainland Europe for the first time – this was a dream since 2007. Finally got to see Barcelona and Paris!
“If you want to get over your weaknesses then focus on your strengths” – A great Indian monk
Getting over a weakness is a great feeling. But it takes time. And we need a lot of strength during that time. Let’s say you want to beat alcohol addition. How would you get through the withdrawal phase? How would you bring yourself to say no when a friend offers you that brand of scotch you like? How to cope with not being invited to parties because you don’t drink anymore?
May be you love Tennis. You revived that old passion and it helped you take your mind off alcohol. You started hanging out with your old Tennis buddies again. And as a side effect it helped you loose that belly fat!
May be you are a smooth talker. You used that skill it to politely say no to your friend who offered the scotch. And you made him understand that you are trying to kick an addiction. As a side effect it may encourage that friend to kick his addiction as well.
Focus on your strengths. It gives you the energy to move forward. Strength is life 🙂
Lets say you want to become an expert in a programming language but starting from the scratch. Ask yourself what are my strengths? List them down and remind yourself everyday.
- I am good at solving problems in general. It makes me happy
- I can think out of the box for solutions
- I like learn just for the sake of learning. My curiosity often helps me be a good learner
- I am very good at math. It can help with certain aspects of being a programmer
- I have my own ways for effective learning
- I am full of ideas and creativity
- I can make any activity fun 🙂
- I get better everyday
- I can look at the big picture as well as the details
- I am full of insights
We can go on. You get the idea….
Self help gurus do not solve your problems. Philosophers do not solve your problems. They only give you tools that solve problems. You need to understand them and find the right tool for your situation. And then the real hard thing is to actually use those tools to solve your problems.
Your relatives and friends wish the best for you(in general). But they also do not solve your problems. Because they cannot. They are not in your shoes.
The problems can be about career, health, finances or any other problem you face.
There is only one person who can solve your problems. Only one person who is uniquely positioned to solve your problems. If he/she does not pay attention to your problems, then there are no solutions to be found. No respite from the pain points will ever be found if that person does not act. That one and only person is you!
Self-help solves problems. Self help books do not!
The path to success is smooth and life is good when:
- You know what you want and dont mind giving up other things for it
- What you want to do coincides with what you feel like doing
- You question yourself but do not doubt yourself
- What you do makes you a better person in some way or the other