“If you want to get over your weaknesses then focus on your strengths” – A great Indian monk

Getting over a weakness is a great feeling. But it takes time. And we need a lot of strength during that time. Let’s say you want to beat alcohol addition. How would you get through the withdrawal phase? How would you bring yourself to say no when a friend offers you that brand of scotch you like? How to cope with not being invited to parties because you don’t drink anymore?

May be you love Tennis. You revived that old passion and it helped you take your mind off alcohol. You started hanging out with your old Tennis buddies again. And as a side effect it helped you loose that belly fat!

May be you are a smooth talker. You used that skill it to politely say no to your friend who offered the scotch. And you made him understand that you are trying to kick an addiction. As a side effect it may encourage that friend to kick his addiction as well.

Focus on your strengths. It gives you the energy to move forward. Strength is life 🙂

Lets say you want to become an expert in a programming language but starting from the scratch. Ask yourself what are my strengths? List them down and remind yourself everyday.

  1. I am good at solving problems in general. It makes me happy
  2. I can think out of the box for solutions
  3. I like learn just for the sake of learning. My curiosity often helps me be a good learner
  4. I am very good at math. It can help with certain aspects of being a programmer
  5. I have my own ways for effective learning
  6. I am full of ideas and creativity
  7. I can make any activity fun 🙂
  8. I get better everyday
  9. I can look at the big picture as well as the details
  10. I am full of insights

We can go on. You get the idea….






Self help gurus do not solve your problems. Philosophers do not solve your problems. They only give you tools that solve problems. You need to understand them and find the right tool for your situation. And then the real hard thing is to actually use those tools to solve your problems.

Your relatives and friends wish the best for you(in general). But they also do not solve your problems. Because they cannot. They are not in your shoes.

The problems can be about career, health, finances or any other problem you face.

There is only one person who can solve your problems. Only one person who is uniquely positioned to solve your problems. If he/she does not pay attention to your problems, then there are no solutions to be found. No respite from the pain points will ever be found if that person does not act. That one and only person is you!

Self-help solves problems. Self help books do not!


  1. Plan your food. We know our calendars atleast a week in advance, right? Planning ahead gives better outcomes in almost everything in life.
  2. Design your meals based on the upcoming activities. If its a sedentary week, then less carbs and more good fat. If its going to be a lot of running then some healthy carbs from whole grains. You get the idea!
  3. Food journal! Does not have to be a diary or a spreadsheet. There are a lot of user friendly apps out there. If you don’t have a record of what you have eaten, there is no way we can improve our diet or diagnose the root cause if something goes wrong. Observing and tracking what you eat and how you reacted to it adds to your food wisdom. No one can tell you what suits your body. Only you can! And observing yourself is the best route.
  4. What are your native food choices? How did your ancestors used to eat? How did you used to eat before you started living on your own? List them and eliminate the ones you don’t take very well. Highlight the ones your body loves. Tilt the balance in the favor of the ones that suit your body. Have this list handy on your phone for when you go food shopping.
  5. A personal hack for me is to not go shopping when I am hungry. Only shop in a satiated state. This way I buy deliberately and not desperately!
  6. Read more. Keep picking up ideas for better living. And test them out if possible. We never know what works and what does not. Knowledge of the right options and strategies is a very critical first step. And for me, reading about health regularly is a way of keeping myself motivated and engaged on the topic.